Have you noticed recently that you have been feeling a deeper pull to reenter the dating pool?\u00a0 But, instead of feeling confident, you feel conflicted on how to begin or if you are truly prepared for the various emotions that arise during a courtship and relationship.<\/p>\n
You know in your gut that you will enjoy the affection, partnership and joy that goes into a romance, but are you ready for the work that goes into fostering healthy compromises and communication?\u00a0 The hard truth is listening to what your inner voice is telling you and what areas you might need to address before jumping into the dating pool.<\/p>\n
Look at your love patterns and the type of partner with whom you most often have affairs.\u00a0 If you are attracting toxic love, you may be subconsciously hindering your chances at a meaningful relationship!\u00a0 Focus on selecting only potential mates that demonstrate a sincere interest in long term love.<\/p>\n
Listen to what warning signs your friends and family might be sending you about a particular individual.\u00a0 These people have a vested interest in your happiness and anyone you love will be involved in their lives as well.\u00a0 By heeding their cautionary messages, you might be able to overcome any blind spots that could otherwise have led to future heartache.<\/p>\n
2. Can you be happy on your own?<\/strong><\/p>\n If you need a mate to feel happy and whole, then you are not ready to date!\u00a0 When you feel secure in yourself and your abilities you can avoid the drama that codependency causes.\u00a0 It is okay if you need to step back from dating for a while to focus on yourself.\u00a0 By discovering what matters in your life and what brings you joy, you will be better equipped to handle the stressful moments and you can begin creating significant memories with your future partner.<\/p>\n 3. Savior complexes<\/strong><\/p>\n You can\u2019t \u201csave\u201d anyone, except yourself.\u00a0 Women often view mates as projects so that they can transfer anxieties that they might have about life into something that can be \u201cfixed.\u201d\u00a0 Think about the last time you said, \u201cif only he\u2026\u201d and then moved heaven and earth to make him change his ways.\u00a0 Were you successful?\u00a0 Did it bring you joy or pain?\u00a0 Look for a partner that is able to recognize the problems within themselves and then take decisive action to get and implement professional help.\u00a0 You are meant to be their partner, not their mother or therapist.<\/p>\n 4. Victim Mindset<\/strong><\/p>\n Only you have the ability to rescue yourself from a situation.\u00a0 If you find yourself frequently speaking negative phrases about yourself or look for others to \u201csave\u201d you, get yourself a therapist.\u00a0 This is a time that you need to focus on your needs and heal yourself.<\/p>\n If you rush into dating before you do the necessary self-healing you risk becoming codependent or being seen as a project.\u00a0 No one is happy in a relationship when both partners are weak-willed and miserable. \u00a0You will truly know you are ready for love when you can view commitment as a natural step towards sharing genuine emotional interactions with a special and worthy individual.<\/p>\n 5. Do you need a partner to \u201ccomplete\u201d you?<\/strong><\/p>\n You are worthy of love, and you are enough without having romantic love in your life.\u00a0 If you promote the mindset that you are broken or need someone to make you \u201cwhole\u201d then you are destined for a dysfunctional relationship.\u00a0 It is important that you feel free to explore love on your own terms because the journey together with a partner is more important than any obstacle or outcome.\u00a0 All relationships are transitory and when you understand the only relationship that will last for your lifetime is the relationship with yourself, then you will find true peace and freedom.<\/p>\n 6. Does dating rule your world?<\/strong><\/p>\n Be honest with yourself.\u00a0 How much time last week did you spend searching for love versus spending it with people or causes that bring you joy?\u00a0 If you can\u2019t remember the last time that you enjoyed a hobby or had brunch with your bestie, then you may not be in a healthy mindset to date.\u00a0 The best way to meet the love of your life is through happenstance.<\/p>\n When you don\u2019t focus on \u201cdating,\u201d but on enjoying life then you will feel less pressure and be more likely to present the authentic you to the world.\u00a0 Also, when you pursue your passions, hobbies, and social circles you will create more genuinely fascinating stories to share during dates.\u00a0 This will ultimately lead to you both being able to find shared interests, \u00a0fun people and hopefully, shared values.<\/p>\n 7. Own your baggage<\/strong><\/p>\n Of course, failed relationships will leave scars, but it\u2019s up to you to learn important lessons and grow as a person.\u00a0 Never date if you are still resentful with how a past lover treated you.\u00a0 It will only prevent you from seeing this new person as they truly are and will create unnecessary walls that will block you from receiving sincere affection.<\/p>\n When you own your baggage, you create a special type of freedom and promote a wellspring of positivity.\u00a0 You may find that you begin to view obstacles as potential life lessons that are sent to you to for self-growth and to inspire others.<\/p>\n 8. Never change your values for anyone, except yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s a major warning sign, as well as a major turnoff, if you have a tendency to alter yourself to fit another person\u2019s expectations.\u00a0 When you try to fit yourself into a box, you send the signal that you lack self-esteem, confidence and aren\u2019t a particularly interesting person.\u00a0 If you feel like you have to \u201cchange\u201d so a person will like you then that person isn\u2019t truly worthy of your time or affection.\u00a0 Spend the time with people who embrace and celebrate your quirks and energetic soul.\u00a0 You will find that by being you, you are able to relax and enjoy people\u2019s company more fully.\u00a0 In time, this might mean that love will find YOU rather than the other way around.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have you noticed recently that you have been feeling a deeper pull to reenter the dating pool?\u00a0 But, instead of feeling confident, you feel conflicted on how to begin or if you are truly prepared for the various emotions that arise during a courtship and relationship. 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