One of the biggest, most important questions we have when we are in a relationship with someone is if they are ‘the one.’ We might think that they are, until the day they break our heart, or we fall out of love with them. Knowing if your person is ‘the one’ can be challenging, and yet that shouldn’t keep us from being open to new relationships and the exciting prospect of falling in love.
There are a few character traits that are good for any partner to have, especially a partner you’d want to spend the rest of your life with. Many of us get too excited during the early stages of our relationship, confusing the hormones and newness of the relationship with deep and lasting affection.
Here are a few things you should look for when deciding whether or not the person you are dating is lifetime material:
- They are respectful and communicative. Too many relationships fail because two people seem to be unable to talk to each other. Sure, you might have conversations about where to go to dinner or who’s house you’re staying at this weekend, but you struggle to connect when it comes to the deeper questions. If your partner doesn’t consult you on big decisions, argues rather than discusses, or otherwise keeps important information from you, this is a red flag.
Additionally, a lack of respect spells doom for any relationship. If you don’t feel cared for, respected, or treated well by your partner now, this likely won’t change in the future. Find someone who deeply respects you, as this gives time for love to grow.
- They have qualities you admire. Character goes a long ways- your significant other will keep their character and personality a lot longer than they will keep their good looks. Create a list of non-negotiable traits you want your life partner to have, and then date people who fit that list. There’s no sense in making a list if you aren’t going to follow it! Of course, be sure to keep in mind that no one is perfect.
- They accept you for who you are. Your life partner shouldn’t flinch at your flaws- after all, we all have them! If you feel like you can’t be yourself around your partner because they will criticize you, this isn’t a relationship you want to be in. We should all be looking to improve ourselves, but not at the expense of what makes us unique.
- You share similar values. Of course, we’re not going to see eye to eye on every little thing, but sharing the deep, important values is needed for a healthy relationship. If you find yourself compromising your values, consider why you are doing so. Is their approval worth giving up who you are and what you find important? You might think that being in a relationship will change how they think about certain things, but don’t bet on it; getting into a relationship with the intention to change that person rarely ends well.
- They should listen to their gut. Some people call this intuition. We all have it, but it is a sense that can be exercised. You and your partner should listen to your intuition to guide you through your relationship. This voice tells us when something is wrong, or when things are going well. Trust this instinct, and don’t be afraid to walk away if you need to. You should never have to compromise your health or well-being for a relationship.
While the article offers a plethora of common-sense advice on relationships, the notion that one can simply ‘create a list’ of traits and find a partner who matches it seems overly simplistic. Relationships are complex, and reducing them to a checklist undermines their multifaceted nature.
The enumeration of valuable traits such as respect, communication, and shared values is enlightening. The concept that one should not compromise personal values for a relationship is particularly resonant and indispensable for maintaining long-term relational health.
Oh, because who needs science when you have ‘Love Psychics’ to guide your relationship? This reads like a horoscope rather than practical advice. I expected more substantive content rather than vague intuitions and gut feelings.
Acceptance of each other’s flaws is indeed a cornerstone of any lasting relationship. It is essential that partners feel comfortable showing their true selves without fear of undue criticism.
Intuition is an interesting point to consider. While not always quantifiable, it plays a significant role in the way we navigate relationships. Trusting one’s gut can often provide clarity in complex situations.
Ah, the ‘just be yourself’ mantra strikes again! Because, obviously, showing someone your love for collecting obscure stamps is going to make them head-over-heels. Yay for authenticity, right? Sometimes, I wonder if advice columns are written by people or parrots.
Sharing similar values is often understated but can greatly influence the longevity of a relationship. Conflicts in fundamental beliefs can create deep-seated issues over time.
The article presents a thoughtful approach to evaluating a long-term partner by emphasizing the importance of respect and communication. It is indeed crucial to have open channels of communication in a relationship for it to thrive.
Agreed. Effective communication can often be the difference between a flourishing relationship and a failing one. Respect is equally important as it lays the foundation for trust and emotional security.
This article provides insightful and pragmatic advice for anyone seeking a lasting relationship. The emphasis on respect, communication, and shared values is particularly noteworthy. In a world where superficial attractions often overshadow deeper connections, these guidelines serve as an excellent reminder of what truly matters. Kudos to the author for highlighting the importance of character and intuition in fostering meaningful relationships.
The idea of having a list of non-negotiable traits seems practical, but it might be challenging for some to stick to it. It requires a balance of flexibility and adherence to one’s core values.
This piece couldn’t be more accurate! Respect and communication are foundational to any lasting relationship. Too often, people overlook these crucial aspects and wonder why their relationships fail. Kudos to the author for highlighting these critical traits.
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