Be the Only One You Need in Life and Love

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Date yourself

Being single can be hard. You have to do things by yourself, take care of yourself, and manage your life all the time. You have the freedom to stay in or go out, pursue your career goals, and make your life exactly what you want it to be. However, it can be hard to keep looking for ‘the one’ when you keep making the wrong choices in your relationship.

You shouldn’t be missing out on life because you’re waiting for the right partner to share it with; you should be living your best life every day, happy with yourself and who you are. Instead of waiting, start to look for ways you can become the person you’ve always wanted to be. Not for someone else, but just for you.

Here are a few ways to please yourself and improve your life, one day at a time:

  1. Date yourself. Want to go see that new band in concert? Get a ticket and take a friend! If you want to try a restaurant you haven’t been to before, go by yourself or get a group together to try it out. Find ways to be okay at treating yourself to new experiences, whether you are alone or with others. Enjoying your own company is a huge step in being okay with being who you are. This way, you won’t have to share your popcorn with anyone else at the movie theater!

2. Learn about yourself. When you are starting to date someone new, you learn all about what they like and don’t like. You participate in activities with them, get to know their family and friends, and spend a lot of time thinking of someone else’s needs. However, you shouldn’t neglect yourself just because you are single. Take classes you’ve been interested in, go to a museum you haven’t been to before, and enjoy getting to know yourself!

3. Trust yourself. In a relationship we tend to confide in that other person. We bounce ideas off of them, get their opinion, and rely on them to set us straight sometimes. When you’re single, you have to deal with some of these needs yourself. You can talk to friends, family members, or even a therapist, but you can also learn to be your own confidant and friend. Soon you’ll realize that you have the power and capability to solve your own problems.

4. Support yourself. Everyone needs those people who will always root for them, but you need to be in your own corner as well. We can get down on ourselves, doubt our abilities, and be discouraged, but we always need to be our own best teammate and cheerleader. Take time to rest and rejuvenate after a hard week at work, and practice giving yourself some grace. Celebrate your successes and enjoy the person you are becoming.

5. Love yourself. Show yourself affection, grace, and compassion. Compliment yourself and do things for yourself that a significant other would do for you. By treating yourself well, your expectations for how a new relationship should look will rise and you will become more confident in what you really want.

By meeting your own needs, you become the person you need the most in your life. You will be strong, resilient, independent, and entirely worth loving on your own terms. Embrace the love that you can give yourself!

11 COMMENTS

  1. Ah yes, because nothing screams ‘I’ve got it all figured out’ like taking yourself on a date to a fancy restaurant. Maybe I’ll try it if I want to feel even more awkward and single than I already do!

  2. The article successfully highlights the importance of self-sufficiency and personal growth. It’s crucial to remember that being single does not equate to being incomplete. Self-awareness and self-care are fundamental for a fulfilling life.

  3. This article is truly empowering! It’s a refreshing reminder that self-love and self-care are paramount. We often overlook the importance of dating ourselves and getting to know who we really are. Thank you for these insightful tips!

  4. The idea of supporting oneself and being one’s own cheerleader cannot be overstated. It is essential for building inner strength and resilience. This article provides a solid framework for individuals to build a robust foundation of self-love and independence.

  5. The concept of ‘dating yourself’ is particularly intriguing. It challenges the traditional notion that fulfillment must come from external relationships. This approach could greatly benefit individuals in enhancing their self-worth and confidence.

  6. The concept of treating yourself well to elevate your expectations in relationships is fascinating. Most people are so busy looking for ‘the one’ that they forget to look within. This article provides a valuable framework for personal growth.

    • I see where you’re coming from, but isn’t the point that by learning to rely on yourself, you become less dependent on others for validation and support? It doesn’t mean you exclude people but rather, you fortify yourself.

  7. Oh, please! Self-love and dating yourself? This sounds like a guide for people who have given up on real relationships. The reality is, companionship is essential, and this ‘go solo’ advice is unrealistic for the long term.

  8. While the tips provided are indeed useful for those who are single, it would be interesting to see how these principles might also apply to those in relationships. Self-love and independence are important for everyone, regardless of their relationship status.

  9. This article presents an empowering perspective on single life. It’s refreshing to see a focus on self-improvement and self-love rather than the perpetual search for a partner. The advice on dating oneself and learning to trust and support oneself is invaluable.

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