Things in the world can be hard. Even 2020 showed us how hard things could be with the outbreak of a pandemic. When this happened, people became isolated and scared. Even the relationships that people had changed and some broke up while others were unable to connect with their loved ones.
Even though there is hard times in the world, empathy is important. As you show empathy to others you will be able to understand their emotions and to connect easier with them.
Dealing with Yourself Through Others
Empathy is one of the best things that you can have. When you meet someone that bothers you, it might be a learning experience. We should want to bond with people, and everyone has energies. You can be kind and loving even if you don’t know someone.
Before you can figure out who a person is, you need to learn who they are. You cannot just use your emotions to decide who someone is, and you need to be able to look at your reactions to see if they are a mirror of that person. Someone that you know might be someone that you should stay with or someone that you should move on from. But make sure that you aren’t taking your own feelings and pushing them on that person. Here is how you can know:
Deep Breathing
Look at the situation around you. Deep breathe and pay attention to what is going on. Look at all the details of the situation even if it is a long things or something short. Be mindful of what you are feeling and if you are angry or upset because you have to deal with someone you meet, figure out why.
Get Out of the Situation
People seem to always try to get out of a situation that makes them uncomfortable. When someone is making you feel angry or giving you negative energies, it can be hard to put yourself in their shoes.
Find a way to step away from the situation for a moment and ground yourself. Once you are able to feel grounded, go back to the conversation. It is important that you are completely calm and collected when you go into a hard situation. Deal with yourself before you have to deal with hard people.
Change Your Perspective
Try and see things from a different perspective. Pay attention to what the person is feeling and doing and see if you can understand them. Are they rude or showing off? Figure out why. Maybe they are just upset about something themselves and they need to get rid of that negativity.
Do you see red flags in your relationships? If you have broken up with your ex, you probably know the red flags. Pay attention to any red flags that you see in your current relationships.
Ask yourself why someone is acting the way that they are acting and see if you can find a way to relate with them.
Feeling the Feelings of Others
If something is bothering someone, you probably can feel it. Or if you think something is bothering them, chances are something is. You can pay attention to someone’s personality, and you can pick up on their behavior. This is even more true if you know the person deeply.
Find a way to approach that person and ask them if something is bothering them. This can be powerful to help you get to know someone. Being empathetic to someone shows that you care, and it allows the person to be able to come to you when they have a problem.
People have different situations that they are dealing with, and people handle their emotions in different ways. Just because you handle something one way doesn’t mean everyone else does. When you open up the chance for conversation, you give the person a chance to share their emotions with you. They won’t do this when they aren’t ready but when they are, you can help them.
Caring about people means that you are able to care about your relationship with them. You are not responsible for everyone else’s feelings but when someone is going through something, they might not even understand they are feeling down. Some people have money problems or relationship problems, and they don’t know how to keep these things hidden.
Don’t let someone exhaust you just because they are dealing with hard things. Try to help people even if they aren’t close to you.
Forgiving Yourself
It is hard to forgive people that have hurt you, but it can be harder to forgive yourself. If you have strong feelings and your actions have caused you harm, you might have a hard time even understanding yourself.
Set boundaries for yourself and make sure that you are caring for yourself properly. Set a goal to build good relationships and to learn to recognize things that you are going through. If you have things that are shameful in your life, don’t ignore them but embrace them and work through them. Recognize your faults.
Let your energy go and allow it to come out. If your energy is negative, work through it by reflecting on your situation and using your intuition to guide you. Forgive yourself and those around you and you can enter into stronger and better relationships in the future.
