Have you found yourself in a relationship that wasn’t what you expected it to be? Did you find that the thing that you thought you wanted the most was right in front of you but now you realize that the only thing that you can do to be happy is to move forward from this broken relationship? Are you struggling because you gave so much into this?
You have to figure out how to get your life back on track and how to move forward with new love.
Ending a Relationship
Ending a relationship can be hard but relationships are hard anyways. Some people can be hard to deal with. Being in love with someone that is self-centered or someone that has no idea how to communicate is a big deal.
Maybe you have energy with someone, and you are always facing challenges instead of peace and they are always leaving you feeling tired, unhappy, or even miserable. If you feel that this is what your relationship brings you, you need to break it off.
You can start, if you want, by taking a break and seeing if the relationship problems go away or if it is something that is going to just stay. Cutting the energy cord is one way that you can bring focus back into what you want and need in your life.
When you cut the cord, it helps for you to look at why the relationship is suffering. You have to be able to see past yourself and find what is really going on in the relationship and what you need to do about it.
Taking the Right Steps
I know it can be hard to get over the relationship. You bring a lot of the pain to yourself by going back and reading the same text messages over and over that bring you pain. Also, visiting their profile page over and over is going to make you more miserable than you might even realize.
You will feel different emotions, some will tell you that you need to go back, and others will tell you to keep running.
Figure out what you are really feeling and make sure that you identify your emotions. Are you angry? Are you unsure about your decision? Do you feel stress or anxiety? Are you disconnected or hurt?
You are not “feeling” something because of something but the feelings are what are inside of you. You have to be clear with what you are feeling and learn to express them so that you can manage these emotions.
You are the only one that is in control of your own life and the way that you react to things. You might be someone that takes actions when you get emotionally hurt, but that is okay.
The emotions that you feel aren’t there to ruin you. You have a life outside of your emotions such as people that need you, a job, a family and other things. You have to fight these emotions and you will see that this can be hard.
Cutting the Cords
Cutting the cord is an action. It’s not just walking away from a relationship; it’s taking the energy that you have put into the relationship and changing the direction that you are taking in your life.
The energy that you put into this relationship took up so much of your time and you need to recover the times that you list in it. You have time to regain some of your energy back and that is what you need to do.
Even though this is hard, you have to do this. You have to keep pushing forward and keep living your best life. Giving up is not an option. Look at the things that you gave up being in this relationship.
Everyone sacrifices things to be in a good relationship but what did they sacrifice for you? What kind of hobbies did you let go of? What kind of goals did you change for your partner? Pick these things back up and do them. Do whatever you want as you move on and don’t worry about what people think about that.
Spiritual Gifts
There are some spiritual gifts and tools that you can use that can help to ease some of the pain of the breakup that you faced.
Picture Burn
Take the pictures that you have and other items that your ex gave you and burn them away. Let the ashes be carried away by the wind.
Burn the Candle
Write your name and your ex’s name on the other side of the candle and let it burn until it is gone. Once it is gone, put it in a paper bag with sea salt.
Mirror
Take a mirror and stare in it. Say, “I am no longer connected to (say their name). I am free from them and free from any pain and feelings that held me back.”
In order to get out of a bad relationship, saying this in the mirror each day can be done. You should only do the picture and the candle idea once though.
Final Thoughts
There is always tomorrow to find new love. Pain doesn’t last forever. Even the darkest of nights get light and you will see that your pain will end and that you will grow stronger. Nothing lasts forever.
Take a look at what you have went through and allow yourself to heal from this relationship. Do what you need to do to live your best life and to keep moving forward.
