There’s a stereotype that women love to date assholes, and men like to date bitches. Unfortunately, women who are strong, confident, and driven are often labelled bitches because they aren’t easily controlled, and they know what they want out of life. Women who are confident, put themselves first, and make others earn her attention and they aren’t as easy to capture for men who need to feel rewarded in the dating game.
Too many of us fall into an entirely different category, though. We will bend over backwards to get a guy to like us, from replying to his texts at all hours to jumping into a relationship well before either of us are ready for it. These ‘good girl’ behaviors might make you a good girlfriend, but they aren’t necessarily making it easy for you to be a good girlfriend to the right guy.
Men like the chase, and they want to chase women who are worth chasing. Here are a few ways that you can go from all-too-willing to chase-able in no time.
- Let him make plans with you. Rather than initiate all of your conversations, let him come to you. This will show how far he is willing to go to spend time with you.
- Don’t break your plans to hang out with him. Sure, you really want to see him, but don’t ditch your existing friends in order to spend time with some guy. He’ll respect that you have a life outside of him, and you’ll seem cool and collected when making plans with him when your schedule is free.
- Dress comfortably and confidently. You want to make an impression while still being yourself and leaving something up to the imagination.
- Don’t cook for him right away. Wait until the two of you have gotten to know each other a little bit before you drag him back to your place for a home cooked meal.
- Wait to have sex. This is easier said than done! In a relationship it is helpful to wait a little while to be physically intimate with one another. You want to make sure that you are compatible, comfortable, and respect one another before connecting yourself together physically.
- Wait to make the relationship official. Of course, if it’s been a few months and he hasn’t made the move to continue pursuing you, gracefully bow out. You deserve someone who knows what you are worth.
- If he breaks up with you, take it gracefully. Breakups are difficult, especially when you felt like you really had a connection with him. Let him go and move on to someone who deserves you.
- Don’t fret if you don’t have a ring yet. It takes us at least two years to fully get to know someone, and even longer to really see how both of your personalities develop while you are together and when you are apart. Give yourselves time to solidify your relationship before you commit to spending the rest of your lives together.
- Don’t mess with the exes. If you are committed to your partner, you don’t feel the need to be in touch with old relationships, even under the guide of wanting to be friends. You have friends that can be your support network without dragging in complications like old lovers.
- Don’t put all your hopes in one place. If the person you’re interested in doesn’t seem to be responding to you, move on. You’ll seem less desperate, invest in other things that make you happy, and be available for the right person when he or she comes around.
- In the end, work to put yourself first. Invest in your health and happiness. Have fun with dating, and don’t get bogged down in other peoples’ expectations of what your life should be like.
It’s refreshing to read a piece that encourages women to stand strong and prioritize themselves. The advice given here is very empowering and practical. Women should indeed focus on their own happiness and not be swayed by societal expectations or the desire to please others.
This article perpetuates stereotypes about men and women that are not only outdated but harmful. It reinforces the idea that women need to play games to attract men, which is both regressive and counterproductive. Relationships should be based on mutual respect and honesty, not manipulative tactics.
Wait, so the key to a successful relationship is to basically do nothing and wait for the guy to do all the work? Fascinating. It’s as if the author believes that men are hunters and women are the prey. Thanks for the laugh, I needed that!
This article highlights the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining individuality in a relationship. It serves as a reminder that mutual respect and understanding are foundational elements of a lasting partnership.
Ah yes, because nothing screams ‘modern romance’ like a checklist of how to make yourself more ‘chase-able’. Perhaps next we can look forward to advice on medieval courting rituals. Honestly, the whole idea is laughable and reduces complex human relationships to a series of games.
While the advice given is sound, it is essential to remember that every relationship is unique. What works for one might not work for another, so it’s important to tailor these suggestions to individual circumstances.
I agree. Relationships are highly personal, and it’s crucial to communicate openly with your partner to understand each other’s needs and expectations.
Sara, that’s a great point. Flexibility and adaptability in applying these tips can make a significant difference in their effectiveness.
The ideas presented in this article offer practical insights into maintaining a balanced and self-respecting approach to relationships. It’s crucial to recognize the value of self-worth in the dating game.
Intriguing take on the dynamics of dating! The concept of letting a man pursue you rather than the other way around has historical roots, but it’s interesting to see it presented in a modern context. It’s always helpful to get different perspectives on such a nuanced topic.
The article provides a balanced view on maintaining independence while being in a relationship. Waiting to make the relationship official and not rushing into things seems like sound advice to ensure compatibility and mutual respect.
The perspective that dating should be fun and not bogged down with expectations is refreshing. Prioritizing one’s own happiness and health is indeed pivotal in any relationship.
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