If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, chances are the topic of moving in together has come up. After a period of time in a relationship it might make sense to move in with one another to save money on rent, to plan for the rest of your lives together, and to continue being close to the person you love. There are upsides and downsides to living together, even if you are in a loving and committed relationship with one another.
Here are a few things to think about before making the big move in with your significant other:
One of the benefits of living apart is keeping the mystery in your relationship. You likely have your routines and your habits in the privacy of your own home, just as your partner does. When moving in with one another, you have to synchronize these habits around one another or risk conflict.
In a new relationship, you want to spend all your time with this new person. However, can you imagine being with them 24/7? Even though you might spend days with one another, moving in can be a shock.
Living apart allows both of you to be independent, even if you are committed to one another. Sometimes we need our space in order to function well. You can get up for work when you need to without fighting for space in the bathroom, enjoy a quiet morning without another person getting in your way, or spend a nice evening alone cleaning without someone coming through to make it dirty again.
Living separately also allows you to take small breaks during your relationship. You have a space of your own to relax and recharge without inconveniencing your partner. You can keep your mess, your quirks, and your habits without jeopardizing your relationship.
Living apart gives you the ability to end things without entanglements. If you live together and you break up, you both have to figure out who gets the apartment or the house, who will move out, and whose stuff is whose. Living separately can make it easier should the relationship fall apart.
Finally, living apart can make you appreciate the time you do spend together. Absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder, and by living apart you can still retain the excitement you have when you see your partner after time apart.
Keeping the romance alive is something we all struggle with, especially if we have been dating someone long-term. Living apart isn’t a bad thing and can even be a beneficial aspect of any relationship.
I found the points about taking small breaks and keeping the romance alive by living apart particularly compelling. It’s a refreshing perspective.
I agree, sometimes a little distance can actually strengthen the bond between partners, making the time spent together more special.
Indeed, having a space to recharge can greatly contribute to the health of a relationship. It’s important to avoid becoming overly dependent on each other.
While the article lists several benefits of living apart, it’s important to remember that every relationship is unique. What works for one couple might not be suitable for another.
This article offers a balanced perspective on the pros and cons of moving in together versus living apart while in a relationship. It’s crucial to consider the potential challenges and benefits carefully.
The notion that living apart can help keep the mystery in a relationship is intriguing. It’s an aspect often overlooked but can be vital for long-term romance.
The points raised are quite valid and provide a modern perspective on relationships. Living apart can indeed help individuals maintain their personal space and independence, which are crucial for a healthy partnership.
Ah, yes. Because nothing says ‘I love you’ like splitting rent and fighting over whose toothbrush goes where. Next up: Couples therapy for which end of the toothpaste tube to squeeze. Give me a break.
I appreciate the emphasis on maintaining independence and personal space in a relationship. This can indeed be pivotal in ensuring both partners are content and not overwhelmed.
The author seems to want us to believe that cohabitation is a pitfall rather than a natural progression. Isn’t facing and overcoming these daily challenges together the essence of a strong relationship?
I agree, Coach. It’s through these shared experiences that we grow as a couple. Avoiding them could be a sign of deeper issues.
I’m with you both. If you can’t handle the small stuff like fighting over bathroom space, how are you supposed to handle the big stuff like raising a family?
While the article provides an insightful look into the advantages of living apart, it seems to overlook the practicality and emotional depth achieved through cohabitation. Intimacy often flourishes when you share everyday moments, and the challenges can strengthen the bond.
This is a ridiculous suggestion! If you’re in love and planning to spend your lives together, living apart seems like a regressive step. Sharing a home is fundamental for building a future together.
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