7 Surprising Ways You May Be Pushing Love Away Without Realizing It

Love is something most people crave, yet many unknowingly put up invisible “Keep Out” signs without meaning to. Sometimes it’s fear, sometimes it’s habit, and sometimes it’s energy you don’t even know you’re projecting. Psychics often notice these subtle blocks before the person does, because they can sense the energy fields and patterns that quietly repel connection.

Think of love like a dance—if you’re always stepping on toes or leaving the floor early, your partner won’t know how to move with you. The good news is, once you see these hidden patterns, you can shift them. That’s when love flows naturally instead of slipping through your fingers.

Let’s explore seven surprising ways people push love away—and how to stop doing it.

1. Carrying Emotional Baggage Into Every New Chapter

We’ve all heard the phrase “leave your baggage at the door,” but in relationships, that’s easier said than done. Many people drag old heartbreak into new love. Psychics often see this as a kind of “emotional imprint” that lingers in your aura. You may say you’re ready to move forward, but energetically, you’re still replaying the old story.

For example, someone cheated on you years ago, and now every late reply to a text feels suspicious. That suspicion isn’t about your current partner—it’s a ghost from the past. Instead of guarding yourself into exhaustion, try asking: what lesson did that heartbreak teach me, and how can I honor it without letting it run my love life?

2. Doubting Your Own Worthiness

If you secretly believe you don’t deserve love, you’ll unconsciously push away anyone who tries to give it to you. Psychics often describe this as a dimming of the heart chakra—a subtle shield that makes it hard for others to connect. You might over-apologize, downplay compliments, or feel suspicious when someone treats you well.

One client once told a psychic, “Every time someone is kind, I wonder what they want from me.” That mindset kept her from receiving genuine affection. The shift came when she started practicing self-worth affirmations—not just as words, but as energy. Love often shows up the moment you believe you’re ready for it.

3. Trying to Control the Outcome

Love isn’t a spreadsheet, yet many approach it like a project plan. You text, you analyze the reply, you set invisible timelines. This over-control pushes away the natural spontaneity of connection. Spiritually, it creates what psychics call “restrictive energy”—love can’t flow if you’re always tightening the reins.

Picture trying to hug someone while holding a clipboard—it doesn’t feel the same. Ask yourself: am I leaving space for surprises, or am I trying to script every move? The most memorable love stories often unfold in ways no one planned.

4. Ignoring Intuition in Favor of “Logic”

Sometimes people push love away by dismissing their own gut instincts. You might ignore red flags because the person “looks good on paper.” Or, conversely, you might walk away from a soulful connection because it doesn’t fit your logical checklist.

Psychics encourage listening to your intuitive nudges. If your body relaxes around someone, that’s important data. If your energy tenses every time they enter the room, that’s data too. Love isn’t about ignoring logic—it’s about letting intuition have a seat at the table.

5. Protecting Yourself With Walls Instead of Boundaries

There’s a difference between healthy boundaries and impenetrable walls. Boundaries invite respect; walls block intimacy. Many people mistake one for the other. You might say, “I don’t let anyone in until I’m sure,” but by then, the potential partner is long gone.

Psychics often sense these walls as “armor energy”—a heavy layer around your aura. It keeps out pain, yes, but it also keeps out joy. Start by softening the armor just a little. Let someone see one honest vulnerability. That tiny crack is where love starts to breathe.

6. Chasing Perfection Instead of Connection

Another way people push love away is by holding out for the perfect partner. You might dismiss someone for having the “wrong” job, the “wrong” height, or a hobby you don’t share. In doing so, you close the door on real humans who could bring joy, growth, and unexpected magic.

One psychic described a client who wanted a partner with a six-figure job, perfect manners, and a gym membership. But her grandmother’s spirit gently teased, “Sweetheart, you’re asking for a résumé, not a relationship.” When she softened her checklist, she met someone imperfectly wonderful—and truly happy.

7. Forgetting That Love Is Energy, Not Just Action

At its core, love isn’t measured only by words or deeds—it’s an energy exchange. If your energy is guarded, scattered, or resentful, no amount of dates or texts can create connection. Psychics often notice this subtle pushback in clients who say, “I’m doing everything right, but nothing works.”

The missing piece? Love starts as an energy you radiate, not just an action you perform. When you cultivate joy, kindness, and openness in your daily life, others feel it. You stop chasing love and start attracting it.

How Psychics Help Remove Love Blocks

A gifted psychic can see these invisible patterns and bring them to light. They might notice the aura of fear around you, sense the ancestral patterns you’re carrying, or hear guidance from loved ones urging you to soften. Sometimes what we can’t see in ourselves becomes clear when someone reflects it back with compassion.

For example, one client who felt “unlucky in love” learned through a reading that she was energetically comparing every new partner to her first love, who passed away. Once she realized it, she could release that attachment and open the door to new possibilities.

Psychics don’t just tell you about love—they help you recognize how your own energy is shaping your relationships. That awareness can be the key to letting love in.

Final Thoughts: From Pushing Love Away to Letting It In

Pushing love away isn’t always conscious. It can happen through fear, control, self-doubt, or simply forgetting to listen to your intuition. But once you shine a light on these hidden habits, you can shift them. Love doesn’t require perfection—it requires openness.

The next time you feel love slipping away, ask yourself: Am I building walls or creating bridges? Am I chasing a checklist or honoring connection? And most importantly, am I ready, truly ready, to receive?

Because love isn’t just something we find—it’s something we allow. And when you allow it, it tends to show up in ways more magical than you imagined.

Love Block FAQs

1. What are the most common ways people unknowingly push love away?
Carrying old heartbreak into new relationships, doubting self-worth, and setting unrealistic expectations are common blocks. Many people also confuse protective walls with healthy boundaries, which keeps intimacy at arm’s length.

2. How does self-doubt push love away?
If you believe deep down you don’t deserve love, you’ll resist or distrust affection. This creates an energetic barrier others can feel. Psychics often describe it as a dimmed heart chakra—love is trying to reach you, but you won’t let it in.

3. Can controlling behaviors keep love from flowing?
Yes. Trying to script every detail of a relationship stifles natural connection. Control creates restrictive energy that pushes potential partners away. Love thrives when there’s room for spontaneity and surprise.

4. Why do past relationships affect new ones?
Old betrayals leave emotional imprints that color your current energy. Even if you’ve moved on, suspicion or fear can resurface. Recognizing and releasing these imprints allows you to meet new love without ghosts from the past.

5. What’s the difference between walls and boundaries in love?
Boundaries are healthy—they define respect and safety. Walls, however, block vulnerability and prevent intimacy. Many people think they’re protecting themselves, but they’re really preventing connection altogether.

6. Do unrealistic standards push away real love?
Yes. Focusing on superficial checklists—like income or hobbies—can blind you to authentic connection. Psychics often encourage people to seek soul resonance instead of perfection, because true love usually looks different than your “ideal list.”

7. Can ignoring intuition cause love problems?
Absolutely. Many people override their gut feelings with logic, staying in relationships that feel wrong or dismissing connections that feel right. Intuition is your soul’s guidance system—it belongs in every love decision.

8. How do psychics see love blocks?
Psychics often sense love blocks as patterns in your aura or energy field. They may notice ancestral wounds, unresolved grief, or protective shields you’ve built. With guidance, these patterns can be released, allowing love to enter more freely.

9. What role does energy play in attracting love?
Love is as much energy as action. If your energy is guarded, resentful, or self-critical, others feel it. When you radiate openness, joy, and self-worth, you naturally attract healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

10. How can someone stop pushing love away?
Start with awareness. Notice where fear, control, or doubt show up. Practice softening your energy, setting healthy boundaries, and trusting your intuition. Working with a psychic can help you identify hidden blocks and realign your energy for love.

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