When You Want to Fall Out of Love

When You Want to Fall Out of Love

When you are with someone and they are not showing you the same love that you are showing them, it can be hard.  It can leave you feeling alone and sad.

Many people fall in and out of love all the time and falling out of love can actually be a skill.  This takes time and patience, but it can be done. Here are some ways of falling out of love with someone:

All About Them

When you want to fall out of love with someone, allow yourself to be disappointed and sad about losing them.  When you do this, it will help you to see that these emotions have overtaken you but that they will go away.

When you feel loss and denial, you will see that the world doesn’t end, and that rejection hurts but you will heal.

Write a Letter

Write a letter to the person that has hurt you and communicate with them what they have done.  Tell them that you no longer love them.

Explain to them how you feel and why they made a bad decision when they stopped loving you.  Then, put the letter away and don’t send it. If you are creative, write a song or paint a picture about how you are feeling.


Stop giving them so much attention when they are hurting you and causing you pain.  Avoid the situation with them and realize that you have to limit these feelings and you can’t do that when you are giving them all of your attention.

The only way you will be able to fall out of love is if you stop letting them control your thoughts and emotions. Do this each day and keep working towards not letting them hurt you, no matter what is in your heart and mind at the moment.


It is important to have time to heal but not too much time.  Make sure that you are staying busy and that you are spending more time with family and friends.  Find something that you are passionate about and do it.  Don’t put your life off just because things didn’t work out.

Get a life if you don’t have one and find something fun.  When you fall in love, it keeps you busy and when you fall out of love, you realize that you have way more time on your hands.  Find a project to do or get another job.

Why Did You Care?

Figure out what attracted you to that person in the first place.  You might find that you were attracted to them only because you were lonely, and you never really loved them in the first place.

Figure out what choices you made that attracted you to them and then tell yourself what you want in the future.  Understand what is a healthy and an unhealthy attraction and make sure that you figure out how to be healthy in the future.

Don’t fall for men that are unavailable.  This sets you up for another relationship that you will have to fall out of love with.  Find men that do not fall in this pattern.  Watch out for people that break your heart and cause you pain.  Remember that infatuation is not love.

Protect yourself from pain and feelings of infatuation.  Don’t idolize people just because they are cute or because you are attracted to them. Figure out that everyone has a flaw and find out what their flaws are.

Red Lights

Make sure you remove red lights.  If the sex is good, great, but is that all that is good?  Let your memories keep you well rounded and allow yourself to think on the things that you knew you shouldn’t ignore.


What do you believe about love?  Figure out what you believe and what you need to love someone.  Love is a feeling, and it comes with respect and kindness.  When we love, we have to find people that are going to love and respect us and sometimes when we lose the feeling of love, we don’t know how to get it back.

Look for people that show love and this will make you much happier.  Remember that love is not just a word, but it is an action.

Talk About It

Talk to someone outside of your life about your rejection and how it made you feel. Rejection will happen with people that you love and that is just part of life. Talk to your family and friends that you trust and let them give you loving advice.


Remember that things that are good will not go away.  If your love falls out of your life, chances are they were not good for you.

Don’t fight someone falling out of love with you and don’t resist when things aren’t working out. Let this opportunity happen so that you can better yourself and become a stronger person.

Fall in Love Again

Let everything calm down and then pick up the pieces and fall in love again.  Maybe this time you will be able to find the perfect person that loves you and makes you happy.